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  1. I think they're predators. They base their income on having a steady stream of wounded little clients coming through the door. That's predatory. (Some of them take it further by keeping an eye out for those prone to attachment and using them as steady income for years at a time, others can't be bothered with the drama that inevitably creates with clients texting and calling at all hours, driving past their houses, the whole PC gamut of therapist-centric weirdness.) Their financial charging is predatory too. Far more expensive than my accountant, lawyer, personal trainer, plumber. And all those people produce tangible results. Finally, their refusal to take responsibility for outcome is predatory. In the end it all boils down to: Yes, come see me. Pay me thousands of dollars. I'm not saying I can help you, but do it anyway. Oh, you don't feel better? Oh well. Must be your fault. No refunds. I don't see any context in which therapists aren't predatory. Someone who sells something they can't actually define, to people who are desperate, and offers no refunds and takes no responsibility for adverse effects is a predator. It's no different than people who sell herbal 'cures' to cancer patients, taking credit if the person lives and making themselves scarce if they die. It's all about taking advantage of someone else's weakness and desperation to line your own pockets.
  2. Teach people they have worth - by charging them through the nose and getting rid of them the moment you're no longer being paid to interact with them. Help people resolve their childhood trauma - by only allowing it to be spoken about in one hour increments, after which they must leave, no matter what emotional state they are in. If they reach out in a state of distress, remind them about boundaries. (That really pisses me off, actually. First you seduce someone into telling you their deepest darkest secrets, then you shame them if they reach out to you without proper financial tribute.) The only thing therapists help is themselves to your money.
  3. Ha ha ha, yeah "don't forget to lovingly fleece your victim" God these people are such unrelenting bullshit vendors.
  4. Therapist - the job you get when you can't get into art school and nobody will publish your articles. Seriously though, saying "It's more art than science" about almost anything is just another way of saying "it's total bullshit, it doesn't work, and when it doesn't work I'll blame you for not appreciating my super cool art."
  5. I was thinking of 'not enjoying' as when the client is no longer fun for the therapist, no longer feeding the narcissistic dream. Like the clients who get terminated abruptly for whatever reason. I'd say you dodged a huge bullet with Mr "I wouldn't enjoy being with you." Isn't it crazy that therapists have the general population so fooled that those of them in private practice are usually so glutted with desperate people they can pick and choose who they want to "be with."
  6. I was just going to add, the only time they don't encourage drawing the therapy termination process out as long as humanly possible is when they no longer enjoy the client. So again, all about the therapist. It's either "keep paying me until I can find someone else to fill your spot" or "get out of here, I can't stand you anymore". Neither one of those are therapeutic, but they're the cold hard realities behind most of those proceedings.
  7. No therapy professional is going to write an article about the benefits of ghosting a therapist, but frankly, I think that's the best way to do it. Of course, the ending therapists inevitably recommend is the one that costs the client the most money. "Hey, don't ghost me! Make this a process! Cut down over time (so that I have time to fill your slots)! At least come in for one last session! (I've got my plane ticket to the Bahamas to pay off.) It's not about the client. Everything that happens in therapy happens for the benefit of the therapist. Everything. They're parasites on human tragedy, nothing more.
  8. I had extreme agoraphobia at one time. The only way I found through it was not through giving a fuck about my 'trauma' or 'abuse' and just getting on with life. I stayed far away from the mental health system and other people who suffered the same illnesses (I could see the crabs in a bucket effect very strongly there, with people identifying with their conditions.) If you'll read my other posts, I'm pretty vehement about people holding on to 'wounds'. You can choose to be broken, if you want. But there are other options. And the other options involve just getting on with life. The more you do it, the more you can do it. That sounds harsh, but it's how I got the heck out of my house. I have been around the world since then, and have a lot of good stuff in my life. I have a solid career. I have a strong relationship. Life is good. Anything that focuses on pain, depression, anxiety, trauma, or abuse will lock you where you are. (Therapy does this.) I'm not saying live in denial of those things, I am saying whatever you feed, grows. So if you wander around thinking about how traumatized and abused you are, that grows to be your whole world. If you can sort of let the horrible stuff be while you get on with the things you really want, they shrink. I truly believe that therapy is structured in such a way as to make people sicker and more broken because that is where it puts the focus. And unfortunately, I think people who leave therapy often take therapy with them in terms of thinking of themselves as being abused, traumatized, etc, etc. You can stop paying your therapist, but if you still have the mental structure of a therapy client, thinking in therapy language, defining yourself in therapy terms, labeling yourself as a wounded soul - you're going to have a really, really hard time ever improving, because being sick and broken has become your identity.
  9. Wow! Most clients, however, are chronically afflicted long‑term neurotics who only want an hour to complain and carp without fear of contradiction. They will pay for this; most of them have to, as their friends certainly won't listen to this stuff for free. They seem to have no center, let alone any central issues, and are content to stay �In Therapy� indefinitely. Thus these chronics and lifers naturally tend to dominate the market by lingering in it forever, while the acute‑crisis short‑termers pass swiftly through it. Mediocre therapists soon learn to cultivate clients who can be sold on endless re‑living of early experiences and Healing the Inner Child. This guy gets it!
  10. LOL! I bet not, but it doesn't change the fact that they're both in the business of selling the hollow facsimile of one form of affection or another. I tend to think that on balance, prostitutes probably offer the better deal. At least they don't pretend they're healing anybody.
  11. Is anyone else shocked by how many people in therapy are either a) brainwashed into thinking they have a super meaningful relationship with someone who will only talk to them for one hour a week in exchange for money or b) desperately crave the sense that the therapist really cares about them even though it's totally obvious that the therapist cares about the money? If you have to pay someone to interact with you, you do not have a meaningful relationship with them. You don't even have a real relationship. Real relationships are not money dependent. I feel like outside therapy, people understand that, but for some reason when they get into therapy, people start trying to forget that as quickly as possible - except their brain won't actually let them, and it leads to this internal war where they KNOW the therapist is just a person paid to emulate care, but they don't want that to be the case. You can pick these people from a mile away, they're always conflicted about their therapy, but they cling to the idea that this person really CARES, and if you mention that a therapist who takes money from dozens of clients a week can't possibly care about any of them anymore than a prostitute who has sex with dozens of clients does, then boy do they get angry. And I don't think they're even really angry at you for saying it. I think they're angry because they already know that to be true, but they work so damn hard to suppress that voice of common sense and then you just become the embodiment of it. What's even worse is when therapists claim to care, thus fueling the fire of delusion and internal conflict in their clients. A therapist who tells a client that they care is like a hooker telling her client that she loves him. It's inherently dishonest, nobody really believes it, but some truly desperate people will cling to it anyway. The whole paradigm of therapy is so unethical. I really think the profession needs to go away.
  12. https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2017-01/uoia-cac010617.php Note how there's no apparent link between the studies 'reviewed' and the conclusions drawn. It's almost a game of words out of a hat. The impetus for the new analysis was the realization that many clinical studies assessed participants' personality traits at the beginning and end of treatment. This usually involved having participants fill out questionnaires about their attitudes, preferences and behaviors. The studies involved interventions such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, supportive or psychotherapeutic counseling, pharmacological treatment (with antidepressants, for example), hospitalization or a combination of approaches. "Interventions were associated with marked changes in personality trait measures over an average time of 24 weeks," the researchers wrote. "Emotional stability was the primary trait domain showing changes as a result of therapy." So essentially, this review is nothing more than a collation of patient questionnaires delivered after any kind of therapy from ranging from chanting to heavy medication. There are no external controls. There are no quantifiable measurements. It's all self reporting surveys. And let's face it, the disgruntled clients tend not to get to the point where they fill out the surveys do they. They tend to be 'terminated' long before they can report their personalities magically changed by whatever random therapeutic intervention they experienced short term.
  13. I was just reading a study in which therapists declare that therapy is totally effective (in their usual vague, un-reproducable, lumping all kinds of talk therapy in with medication and calling it all the same thing sort of way) and it occurred to me that the profession is well aware that it is ineffective. You don't see physicists putting out papers explaining that physics is real. You don't see doctors putting out papers to the effect that 'medicine' (as a concept) works. There are no 'studies' from builders claiming that yes, they can build houses. We know these things work. There might be studies on certain elements of these fields, but there aren't any defending the existence of the field itself. But the therapy profession is constantly putting out paper after paper claiming not that specific methods work or don't work, but that ALL therapy works. And, to make it worse, they include medicated clients in the sample as well. One thing you'll see touted about therapy again and again is that the modality has nothing to do with the outcome. CBT, Meditation, Psychoanalysis, doesn't matter what education, experience level, or modality the therapist uses 'it's the relationship between therapist and client which is the biggest predictor of success'. In other words 'if a therapist can get a client to like them, then that client is more likely to declare therapy a success.' In every other field of real study and research, certain practices are found to be more effective than others. For instance, if you have a broken leg, it doesn't matter whether you like the doctor or not as long as they set the break properly. This is because real 'treatments' are based on real outcomes. When it comes to treatments, the definition of a treatment that works is one which can be reproduced across patients and treatment providers. EXCEPT, apparently, when it comes to therapy. Then, for some reason, though the profession considers itself medical and treatment based, none of the usual rules apply. Therapy has a HUGE evidence problem which is ironically disclosed by the sheer volume of 'hey we promise, this works!' studies and articles they put out. I think they need to admit that what they're offering are paid mentorships, charge accordingly, and stop pretending to offer cures, treatment, or even diagnosis.
  14. Isn't it nice to wake up in the morning and not have therapy be the first thing on the mind?
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